The Choice is Yours

As I celebrate 21 years of meeting my wife and 20 years of loving her and 13 years of marriage, I want to offer a little advice to church people and anyone else that this may concern.

I give this advice as a Pastor, Husband and Father with my little experience in love matters and as a counsellor in these issues having consulted with hundreds of relationships over 19 years of pastoring.

Ok enough of my CV, 😊.

For the UNMARRIED, DON’T LET ANYONE whether a PROPHET, PASTOR, PARENTS CHOOSE YOUR LIFE PARTNER!

Don’t fall for spiritual deception that only the Man of God can choose for you. I know a man of God that used to do that, his church was littered with failed marriages.

Don’t also give in to parental manipulation as well.

God the father of Adam,

(Luke 3:38 (KJV)

...which was the son of Adam, which was the son of God.)

didn’t interfere in Adam’s choice of a life partner, He allowed him to choose

(Genesis 2:23 (KJV)

And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.)

God will direct your path to the best suitable mate for you at least once in your life time, He will bring her or him to you.

(Genesis 2:22 (KJV)

And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.)

but God will allow you to identify him / her and make the choice yourself.

In my own opinion, I EMPHASISE my own opinion - He will in MOST CASES (not cast in stone), bring them along in your late teens and your 20s. This  doesn’t mean if you don’t discover your life partner after your 20s, you have lost out forever. God is a God of a second, third, fourth and many chances as you require. 

If parents realise this, they will teach their kids and train them to identify their future spouse by tutoring them to be led by their inner man. (Am already doing this).

This will forestall late marriages and pressure to make the wrong choice later on in life.

THE JOB OF PARENTS and SPIRITUAL AUTHORITY IS TO TUTOR, GUIDE & TRAIN their children and sheep along these lines and NOT TO CHOOSE THEIR SPOUSE FOR THEM!

For the MARRIED, if you are already with ANOTHER PERSON’S CHOICE FOR YOU, MAKE THE BEST OF IT! The best spouse is the one you have, work it, for it work! There is nothing like marrying the wrong person. The person is only wrong before saying ‘I do!’. Once that is said, he or she becomes the ‘RIGHT’ mate and spouse, so work it out!

God gave only one woman for Adam to choose and allowed him make the choice without interference, after he let him rigmarole with animals.

He chose Eve, she goofed (though Adam could have remedied it, he goofed the more through his disobedience by eating the apple) but he made his marriage work!

Key word, He made his marriage work.

He didn’t go about blaming the woman everyday for the loss of the garden though he fingered Eve when God confronted him initially. Most men of our our day blame their wives for everything bad that happens to them, such as the reason for their financial crisis. Adam lost his estate, all the gold and precious stones in it (Genesis 2:11-15). You could say he fell from Grace to Grass - yet he didn’t blame Eve...

Many things to say but let me stop here, I’ve made my point.

The choice is yours, don’t give in to pressure.

Thanks for you time.

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See you at the next one!

N.B

I didn’t want to make this a long read, for questions and further clarification, chat me up at www.pastorobi.com