Relationships and marriages are failing because a lot of people enter it with a lot of misconceptions probably conceived from watching movies and reading books!
So they have a pre-conceived idea of what Love is, based on high expectations without taking into cognisance its high responsibilities.
We have been oriented, be it subtly, to enter relationships with some expectations of how we should be treated in it and that is a recipe for failure.
Let me explain: If there's a 'taker' in the relationship, or a high expectation spouse who isn't a high responsibility partner;
Love might be impatient most times;
Love sometimes mightn't appear benevolent;
Love might be arrogant;
Love at times remembers wrong done to it;
Love isn't always sweet;
Love isn't always smooth sailing;
Love at times is unjust;
Love sometimes don't believe the lyrics any more;
Love might at times seem selfish;
Love might be sensitive and touchy;
Love can be heady;
Love at times 'can't take it any more';
Love can fail!
I am not being antagonist of love, no, far it be from me! However, in every relationship, the above mentioned happens. If you are a high responsibility spouse, it won't matter because you are not a high expectation partner.
Nevertheless, the right attitude to enter marriage with, is the attitude of giving not expecting. You enter the relationship with a high sense of responsibility to your spouse.
That's what I mean by being a giving partner and not necessarily an expecting one.
A marriage made in heaven is one where both spouses are givers thus they simultaneously become receivers.
A symbiotic relationship will outlast its participants. A parasitic one won’t stand the test of time.
The kind of love shared in a marriage with high responsibility, symbiotic givers is characterised by the following:
Their love endures long and is patient and kind.
It is never envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily.
It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God’s love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong].
It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail.
Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening].
Love NEVER FAILS [never fades out or becomes obsolete or comes to an end].
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